Best Friend- Mash Up of an excerpt from a diary.

“Best friend.

If you are around the age of 16, this term will sound familiar to you. If you have graduated from high school, this term may sound a little childish. If you are married already, this term then only refreshes some old good memories from the past. What the term, ‘Best Friend’, is for you? Let us talk collectively.

Best friend, a person who takes care of you, a person who is there when you want to share any sad or happy happening, someone who is always there when you have to finish your homework, somebody who will give you some advice even if he’s the master of immaturity, someone who call’s you every time you get into trouble or someone who is always there to give you that soothing hug. Do you think all the traits mentioned in the past few sentences are definition of a Best Friend? I respect your opinion if you said, YES!

Let me tell you what I think is a best friend. A person who you care for, someone who promises you to call you whenever he/she gets in trouble, someone who trust you and made a decision to depend on you after seeing if you are that person, someone who you love to the end of life and can’t think of a future without them.

See the difference? In the first place, He/she was your support in the life but be a supporter. As we know, everything in life has a dark side. It can be totally opposite too. In some cases, your so called best friend only uses you to get their work done. That best friend is not your best friend. It is always a mutual relation. If he’s good at something, you are good at something else. You help each other to groom in life. The other aspect; sometimes your love for your best friend becomes so much that it only hurt you. Be sensible there. If he/she doesn’t response then it doesn’t mean that your friend is just resisting back. It means he/she is not ready for this and they will get your love sometime in their lifetime. Then at that time, they will come back to you in their present.

The situation discussed about was a worst situation but most times, you only love any person if he loves you. Now you know if you are a best friend or who is that friend which you love more than any person alive in this world.

Another aspect of this best friendship hood; when you think a lot e.g. what if you lose your friend, what if he dies, what if he’s not that rich. And you start to think of the solutions. A very simple solution is recommended for that. It is here down below.

“Remember one thing, thinking about the past take you to the past but it is not helpful. Thinking about future will only make you waste your present but thinking about your present will help you to make good relations with everything in life.”

Hope everything made sense here for most of you.

Inspired by My Best Friend.

Can’t think a future without you.

Thank you. “

Proud to be Average!

One month ago I decided to write a blog for a renowned website. I did not have any great ideas. I wanted my first blog for the website to be a master piece. I wrote a few words but I couldn’t feel the basic catch in it so I put it aside. Later after thinking about it, I considered writing about that one outstanding or perfect thing that may have happen to me.

To be honest, the list I came up with was empty. This made me gloomy and I started to feel anxious. That’s when my brain was revolved towards the fact that nothing is perfect in life. Now in this case, why should one try so hard to achieve a goal of perfectness which one could never accomplish? What can I do to be perfect or to make things happen perfectly in my life?

Maybe I can never be a perfect person, father, husband or brother. Maybe I am just an average person. Or an average father who never shows favoritism among his children. An average husband who does not love his wife too much or too less.  Or could I be that average brother who is neither boastful nor afraid to show his protection for her sister. Is it a good thing to be an average person?

Every person lives their own lives which makes them think they are no more than average people. If they would have been given a chance to swap their lives with anyone, they might understand how much better their own life is.

Let me draw my conclusion, if you think you are an average person then it means you are normal. If you are normal, you will adjust with people easily. If you can adjust with people, you’ll make a lot of friends. If you make a lot of friends, you will never be alone in life. That is how you will stand out from other people and this is what will make you special. As somebody said, “There’s an outstanding story behind every average person.”

Life is compromise?

Life is about compromises, isn’t it? Well if you said ‘no’ then I respect your opinion. Or maybe you are right life is about living the way you want to live it.

“Ah, I am confused now”, said my subconscious mind.

We need to consider what exactly life is. If it’s the way I said or the way you suggested it to be. Let us take a look on some of you may be.

“Life is about give and take”, said the mualvi from the downtown mosque.

“It’s about playing games and eating a lot of French fries”, said Rohit –a nine year old young man.

“It’s about love”, said Josh who is apparently in love with Jessica these days.

“It’s about worshipping the lord”, said the pastor from the Baptist church.

What do you think now?  Everybody has their way to describe this life. Well in my words, the conclusion of the life mystery is somehow confusing and for solving this mystery my statement will be:

“Life is about give and take, no matter if its love, games, worthy deeds or hatred.If you like to play, you will compromise studies. If you love something, you will compromise anything to get it. You will have to stop doing immoral deeds to receive God’s will. If you want to live the life your way, you will have to compromise something in life to live it that way.”

If you try, you'll get it.

I know one can never achieve in life what he wishes for but sure he can try for that. You try your whole life to get what you want but what you get is something already planned but if you understand that this is best for you then nothing is left. I want to be, do and want to achieve so many things I life that I am afraid that I won’t be able to do it in my life time. I need another chance. What should I do?

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I want to be an actor, photographer, rich and the best person in the present. I can’t let my kids suffer what I did. They will get everything they desire because I love them. Allah loves us then why not gives us what we want.

I believe I know the answer. One who loves us knows what we want and what we need. I want to be an actor but don’t need to be an actor. And if it is good for me God will give me that thing I want because automatically it will become my need.

“Just close your eyes…. You’ll be alright…. “

"Safe & Sound" (from The Hunger Games Soundtrack)

Write, write and write until you make it Perfect!

They say practice makes a man perfect but they also say that nobody is perfect. Then why should one practice to achieve a goal of perfectness which he can never attain? This whole thought came into my mind in the first period at school. You may have seen people use synonyms or in other words they cheat to make their writing perfect. I don't agree with this but a cheater himself can understand other cheaters. When I see some of my peers with such good writing skills, I think they are gifted. As one of my friend would say, “I am a born blogger.” Do you have any idea how to be a perfect writer? Given that I can’t hear you so I shall think in my own way...

The conclusion according to me of this confusion is somehow again confusing and you may refuse it. “Write as best as you can, now try to write better than your previous writing and keep on doing that until there is a complexity explosion.”

This should help people like me who are finding ways to better themselves not only at writing but at anything.

Revised by

Constance Elkins. 

First letter.... and shabnam's response....

A quick note before reading the first ever letter. Basheer, the husband is writing letter to his wife for the first time. His wife, Shabnam, is blind but has a will power and self confidence to do whatever she want. Let's see what she does when she finds out about Basheer's letter.
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BASHEER'S LETTER

Shabnam,

How are you, mother and Ruksana? How is everything at home? Yesterday I got letter from mother and she said that as we are newly married couple so we should write to each other in order to understand each other even more. I don’t know what to write so I will start from the beginning but before that I should let you know that I am not a good writer. I always get a “D” on letter writing class. My journey to this big old city was tough. I know it’s not easy for you too to live alone over there but don’t worry my mom will take care of you as she did of me.  Now as we just have this way talking so I will write all what I feel.  Today was a big day; I had to walk all the way through station colony to small colony which sure was a long way. I feel tired and exhausted. When I first arrived here, I felt alone and unaccompanied. The good news is that I have found a friend, Raja; his parents migrated from India to Pakistan during partition. Raja is a nice person, lives with his wife and children. In a way, it’s good to write letters to you because that’s how I can express my feelings. A lot to say now but have to go Raja’s home to discuss some business matters. Good bye. Waiting for your response.

With love,

Basheer.         

As Shabnam cannot see, she asks her husband's sister to write the letter for her. Her husband's sister, Ruksana, is a very sweet and polite girl.
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SHABNAM'S RESPONSE:

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How are you? We all are fine. Everything is fine with the grace of Allah. I was surprised to hear about  your letter. I asked Ruksana to write the letter for me. I don't know what to ask her to write either. I will use the same method as you did, asking to write whatever I feel. I think I can understand how lonely you feel. I left my home to live with your family. Being new in a place can be really tough. Don't worry about me, your mother is taking care of me the maximum she can. Good to know that you found a friend. You can share whatever you want with a friend. Next week I am going to my mother's home to visit. I feel shy saying that but
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I miss you,

Shabnam.
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Basheer-Shabnam letters-last letter

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The last letter Shabnam wrote to Basheer was a forever ending letter which is still aplicable in her life. Sitting on the bed with her baby, she wrote it... Many questions shall be answered within couple of letters.

"It feels as if the world around me has ended. I don’t know what to do anymore.  I still remember the first letter you wrote me.  How can I forget the innocent love you had for me. Where are you? Are you listening to me? I know you can’t and that is why I am writing this letter to you. A letter which may never will reach to you. You were a thought and you will remain a thought.  I can see you in our love, the proof of our blind love. Never saw you, walking but did hear you talking. I don’t know just what to do. People say me to smile, why should I? They say me to wear colorful clothes again, why? I know why, for our love, to raise our love. I shall remain happy. It’s my last letter to you. I wrote whatever I could; now it’s time for me to restart this world with full confidence and new hope.  I will never miss you because one only misses the person when forgets him. And you are always in my thoughts.

My endless love,

Shabnam"